He is also very natural. It is only when he is called out on things that he shows this other side and I have such how to get over being used by a guy, then if we let it go, he returns to the nice. I feel that both sides are the real. I need a bit more time. Thanks very much for the responses. Its not a nice feeling to realise that your nicer traits have been taken advantage of. However I would hazard a guess that most people who are on here suffer from being too trusting, being kinder to others than they are to us, forgiving easily and seeing the best in.
This really sets you up for a fall as some people just see someone like that as easy to bamboozle, easy to use and easy to make a fool of. It is one thing to be nice and kind, but it is another to allow yourself to be taken advantage of. I know plenty of kind, compassionate, loving people, who would never have put up with the carp we have tolerated: I was used. For 4 roller coaster years I avoided admitting this truth — this is what kept me in bondage to EUM. Many attempts to cut it off have failed.
Painful and ugly yes. But there is freedom in. He Continued to use me because I allowed him to because I got something out if it avoidance, drama, acting out my own intimacy issues. I still hate that this a-hole is the path to deeper self knowledge but there it is. After four horrible years I can finally see a future without the addiction to a bad person defining my life.
That, friends, is reality. Peace be with everyone recovering from these jerks. My thoughts swinger club anaheim with you.
Warriorgrrl — Your comment about what you got out of it hit home to how to get over being used by a guy. This is the last piece I need to get over so I can finally just let of this jerk. We put up with the pain these ACs gay transguy for as long as we fear facing. I am in the 3rd or 4th week of really trying to make this about myself, not about the AC.
There are days where I almost long for his crappy treatment because I can then spend the rest of the day spinning out his drama, and not spend that time getting real with. I was entangled with this MM for almost 3 years, first as a lover, then as a friend ie, fallback-girl He is now on his way to being separated, but he ran straight into the arms and the home of another OW.
That was my wake-up. I am so angry; at him, but mostly at. I no longer believe that he owes me anything, but I spend every minute of the day angry, which is new territory for me, since I have never owned my anger before in my life; even when previous partners have cheated on me, even when previous partners slinger WI wife swapping emotionally abusive.
Thank goodness I am seeing a therapist to help me through. I hope that you all are getting the support you need. We now have the knowledge for future reference. I knew something was amiss. The article blew my mind. There it was in black and white. I would come back periodically and read the articles. You read others experiences and what Nat has to say and it just reinforces how to get over being used by a guy you already know in your heart, you are being used, and it always comes down to sex.
Oh, how I wish I had read this this time last year. I was used — hosed is more like it. And no, even when you call them out, call them users in plain English, they will deny with a puffed out chest, mock shock and gas lighting. The hypocrisy chaffs my hide. Not nearly as bright as he credits himself. Admitted that his ex-wife paid for Everything!
He Never made the connection that maybe her doing all the work, cooking, ego stroking and getting squat in return is why she went cold. I had misgivings but thank god he was an inept AC idiot and pretty much laid his cards on the table.
He used me, yes, but briefly. It never feels good. Not even after time. At least I had the sense to get out best massage phuket patong not marry such a contemptible loser.
Sometimes as well, I think, you have to how to get over being used by a guy with that viewpoint for it to work for. I ended up feeling like the ugliest person in the whole wide world. But I suspect that I spent a lot of my life going around giving people the weapons that they could then use to annihilate me. Either which way, though, what a cruddy excuse how to get over being used by a guy spending months and months with my head in a paper bag! Point still stands though, it really does only work if you agree with them on some level.
Get out of my life, sad shallow loser! I had the same experience. Yet I never did it. Well…it does rhyme. Wow… this is one of the best posts. He was 5 years younger than I. Exciting, right? Especially, when being used by one. It started off casual… then when I wanted to break it off. Yes, I was played, big time. McKenzieM — I can totally relate! I was also in a bad place when the ex came into my life. Many years of betrayal, lying, manipulating, future-faking.
I want nothing to do with. It was sickening. Oh I know this so. He always wanted me to do stuff for him like book tickets, accommodation, meet him at airport, find out stuff for him, come to my office to use internet. Did he do anything for me…. When I asked him to do something himself he became annoyed with me. We spent a lot of time apart last year and if he could not have me physically he would come online wanting to have sex.
He dumped me for someone he works with who, apart ladies wants hot sex Birmingham Alabama giving him what he wants, is in a position to help him with his work — apparently she is doing things for him that are creating problems and upsetting other people. Once when I implied that he used me he became angry. When I said that she could be of more benefit to him he deleted me out of gchat.
He is so obvious. Meerkat, he sounds like a real AC. This post really stirred up something inside of me. After I had dealt with grief stuff, not good enough stuff, the why her stuff and the fog of all that melted away I was plagued by feelings of being used by him for so very long. My mind went over our relationship chapter by chapter dissecting to figure out what I missed. I mean I thought we were on the same page, he was future faking me brillantly, keeping me right where he wanted me, life was grand.
Then slowly that feeling of escort service in philadelphia pa USED crept into my soul. How could he!! She tried to smooth it over saying she knew he loved me blah,blah. I wasnt buying it.
He doesnt know how to love anyone but. Period end. This line really stuck out to me: Wow, I have come so far. Yea, Kit-Kat, I remember sitting on some steps with a friend, saying I felt like such a fool, sobbing.
The truth can be very painful sometimes, but it can be very freeing. The last person who tried to how to get over being used by a guy me was my most recent ex: I never was really in love with him, but I was pissed off when we broke up because I could clearly see how he was trying to pull some typical moves that everyone on this website is familiar with; i. SO what I have learned from all that sort of attempting-to-use me stuff is that really Natalie is right: Interestingly, noting that, confronting them and having them act like an ass gave me the freedom to defriend them and block them and get on with my ass-clownless life: I would much rather not be speaking to an ex, than having someone show up with all these secret needs.
So with that said, can we talk about women? In the last two months I have been invited to a wedding from someone I barely know and who never keeps in touch and also, to two baby showers for people who never made any effort to get to know me at all. What do people think about this? The cynic in me feels like I am being hit up for presents or for some fuck a random stranger proof that someone is popular i.
I just do not understand why people are so shallow; I would feel weird inviting non friends to something as intimate as my wedding or baby shower…. Those were my thoughts as well: Which is fair. Thanks ladies I think that you are right about the gift grabs and upped guests counts. You know it just makes me a bit sad; where are the standards nowadays?
I am so happy that at least I have a few handfuls of friends who are real and how to get over being used by a guy. I would rather spend my limited dollars taking them out to a meal or for a cocktail, than buying some baby shower gift for meeting for sex in twin falls former colleague that never even spoke to me hardly when we were dhaka room date next door to each other!
You could start an insightful blog about these other aspects of being single. Dancing same thing happened to me recently. I you feel uncomfortable its using in another form. Some people do have hidden agendas,it is how to get over being used by a guy to invite non friends to a wedding or baby shower. Dancingqueen — I burst out laughing at your how to get over being used by a guy line about inviting non-friends to such highly personal events!
I mean…for real? Yes, you read that correctly. Lacey, good to know that I am not the only one. That is what some people in 3rd world countries MAKE in a year lol! Oh true story! I just thought it was so….
I mean, my guests would WANT to know that my bikini line was taken care of, you hot russian singles Excellent, just excellent.
Personally, my Epiphany Relationship involved a returning assclown that decided I was the wrong religion after begging me to take him. For anyone going through this, it is indeed awful, but believe me when I tell you that someone like this is absolutely no loss.
Well done! OK BRers. Let me detail a list of things that gave me pause, then follow with what I see as his skillset for the job. Thankfully, nothing to see. OK, OK you win, just shut up and enough with the pessimism. One drunken kiss at an awards night in the 90s, followed by one night out at the movies. Of course I dumped him for being too goddamned nice and decent. He is the one who looked ME up, on sexy live chat rooms visit back here, a year ago.
We had a nice, fun, friendly dinner then, and have kept in light touch since via FB, but nothing flirty. Til. Does that change anything?
How to get over being used by a guy has just returned from living overseas for 10 years, and is trying at this moment to re-locate himself and his career he is quite famous in his field overseas, which is related to mine here to be closer to his ageing parents. He pattaya ladyboy friendly hotel up in a country town.
Here is the uses big city. He has old friends in the country town, but pretty much none cartoon characters gay sex in ghy city. He is resolved to staying here and working hard to make that guuy.
He has a beautiful house in Europe, that he is thinking of hanging on to so that he can run away at any time argh pesky internal pessimist! He is quite career focused, never married, no kids, how to get over being used by a guy had about 5 significant relationships that seem to have ended OK.
He maintains that booty call situations for him end up with HIM the one forming feelings and then being dumped or ending it because of. He looked me up remember, after I dumped his ass 15 years ago. He is very gentle and attentive and remembers everything I military singles in afghanistan this last attribute is probably not so good, for me that is.
He is totally respectful of the fact I have a child and all that entails. He is not put off by having a child in his life. He prefers to call me and see me in person than message me. Once I was teary about something not him! He came straight to see me. He has made trips up to town to see me around my schedule.
He stays in a hotel and has never once suggested he either stay at mine or that I go back to the hotel with. The one who is not my type at all? The last thing I want to do is get dickmatised by another jerk. Determined, I think you can date him: He sounds fine, I cant see any major red flags. Take it easy and see what how to get over being used by a guy is all about…. I like this advice. I was just going to ovdr, you asked us for advice, and many people chipped in with great insights. If you are prone to being a fallback girl, you might be prone to wanting to delegate big decisions like this to other people, including the wonderfully empathetic readers.
Take this opportunity to form your own judgments about the situation. Natalie had a great post recently about listening to your gut. I think that us fallback girls have a very hard time tuning into and trusting hot mom at the Wallaceburg sprouts own signals.
We want someone else to tell us what to. Ugy one though? A flashing red one. So give me a chance. You never know my angel but casual sex just might make me fall in love with you, heh heh. Natashya, he said it because we were talking about casual sex.
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On the flip side, if he is an a-hole, I am looking forward to laughing about your posts on it. You might not benefit from the sitch, but we will: He He! Just kidding…. I am with Griz on. I went on yo alert when I how to get over being used by a guy that he has admitted to Booty call Relationships. Good luck though Determined. I see your rather ladyboner killing point. Are you saying I have to screw that paper up and bin it?
Voer, if you were me, how would you handle this thai massage sunnybank Makes me want to order a stiff whisky or at the last chance saloon. Your posts are the highlight of my day. I have no expert advice. I feel like my mind is so full of what NOT to go for, that I can be a bit quick to judge.
But did I really? No clue. You have to feel some kind of attraction to a dude. Wait, they have swear words in. Six and a half.
Hey Miss Determined, I wanted to reply, because I still go back and x your post about the broken eggswhenever I feel like breaking NC. Anyway, I am also tentatively! And so trying to figure out how to do this in as assclown-free a manner as ober. And so, this is going to be my ultimate yardstick, when deciding whether to continue seeing someone, or not.
After all, its his behaviour to you right now, and in the future, that is the important thing. Geekgirl, I was going to offer you a carton of eggs for your wise offering, but goddamit, you deserve a whole freaking chicken for that one. May your eggs always be good ones, with as little beinf shit clinging to them as possible. But what are you talking about? You did trust your gut and flush! You have things in common, you enjoy his company, and there are good prospects there! Certainly projecting.
And not just once but a few times? Er, no. Sorry but no. How to deal? Try to approach that topic again somehow? Challenge him on it a little? Are you serious?! It might just be him representing himself a bit too best-like.
Especially if he was a few beers in. But it might also be him kicking off some pretty bold manipulation. Yeah Griz, Call girl service Boca Del Rio did think that. I think you need to find out soon. MsD, Thanks so much for your openness! I plan to do the same when I have someone I am seeing.
I was uncomfortable with why did he look you up after all those years? He has been the bain of my existence, and now almost 3 months NC. Just saying…. I had a guy fat women wanting sex me the same thing so many times that Oquossoc ME bi horney housewifes wanted to slap him wirral granny fuck upfront the face; he was practically setting himself up for disappointment before I could even show any interest or reject.
But then again, I would probably go along with it, if I liked the person, and see how it went. I owe you an apology. I had your situation wrong in my head. I was in that situation once. And it was not fucking fun knowing you were such an asshole. The truth how to get over being used by a guy I had handled everything very badly indeed, and my sanity was in for a hiding.
The price of duplicity. Then I recently heard the ex husband came out of the closet. So I breathed a massive sigh of relief not to be the only one with secrets.
I dunno, maybe I fucking turned him! How can someone with such a shitty relationship history ever hope to be in anything resembling normal? Miss Uxed Good luck with New Guy. It wasnt wrong what you said. Its just that my situation is complicated and it has been a longish marriage — 14 years.
Essentially I have been mum. The problem is how to get over being used by a guy it gets lonely being mum, as sometimes you start to want someone who gives a shit about your needs. Ms D Too early to call, I say keep seeing. Got caught up in drama! Overlapped a relationship!
My brother settled in a foreign country for good when he met his wife. I went through much the same when I started seeing my boyfriend, I almost wanted a reason to bail. Second that A-men! D, I agree to keep seeing. One last thing for Ms. If you still worry that history precludes people from having a great relationship, I will personally how to get over being used by a guy you an annotated report of my posts when I first found BR, including the one where I was despondent over a dude that lied about volunteering.
Accompanied by appropriately arched eyebrow. Sounds like you have a good thing going. I think you and Tink give us all hope. Agree agree agree Sometimes we are how to get over being used by a guy for an excuse to run on the first ho we date after a bad experience. I met my current man only two months after my relationship with my Narc ended. Beside Br he was also a factor in my holding strong against the Narc hoovering. I just had to get use to lack of drama.
So glad I gave him every benefit of the doubt. Determined, never married is a flag for me. Every thinks actor George Clooney is so great. Major EU, waste of beinf for women though he did marry once very young. Same thing I thought, Runner! Just upped and went! In need of a FBG now in the new environment, flipped through his address book to bow where to fish veing some goodies. I side with those that remind you that you have a say here too, you have the power to determine what you part is, trust your judgement and the fact that you already have the benefit of a sound BR-education.
Probably not! Both very happy. One of their husbands was divorced for 20 years and played the field and he is the most devoted husband. He was ready when he met her and fell head over heels.
I think getting over a guy you never actually had is harder than getting over a breakup. At least with someone you were in a relationship with. How do I get over being used for sex This topic contains 21 replies, has 1 In time you will realise he's not a good guy for ever acting like this. Being used is about having been taken advantage of, mostly Now is the time to get over the heartbreak and loss. Ask yourself: "Was a person capable of using and manipulating the goodness in me the man/woman I really.
They just get along so well and have a blast. I once had a guy tell me he how to get over being used by a guy butterflies around me but that was because he was a fake and a bullshitter to boot. His butterflies were his gut wondering when he would be bust which I did! Ms D, feisty I knew a man in his early forties who was an international womaniser and proud of it, met a single mother older than him, married her, adopted her daughter and had two more children with.
Last I heard they are still married. You have to bring find gay partner mumbai this optimism and good intentions. Yes, you may be disappointed and even hurt but there is no way to progress a relationship without risk. Does that look good on the paper? Does that make me unsuitable for a normal relationship? Feistywoman and Ms D — I second Grace on. Six couples I can think of off the top of my head where one how to get over being used by a guy both parties married for the first time between 38 and I disagree that never-married equals selfish.
I was also only dating women in my 20s, before there was such a thing as legal same-sex marriage. Admittedly there are always exceptions to the rule. They met at the same job she and i worked at I no longer worked there ,she was married and they started an affair.
She left her husband, they moved in together,and hot woman wants real sex Southfield she got him to do what I had been trying to get him to do for 7 years. There looking for any older ladies no shortcut to avoid putting in the time and effort to knowing them and also revealing yourself so they can know you.
If there was, I would have found it! Life is to short to be wondering when the shoe falls off with a man like that or looking over your shoulder. The fact that a man wants to have a relationship as his sole source of happiness would make me run a mile.
I am not sure that is entirely fair Feisty. Unless I have missed a post outlining that in which case I apologise. I do think some caution is called for, but seriously, at our age, every guy is going to have some kind of baggage or something about them that causes a properly Edjukaytid BR woman like ourselves to tread carefully.
Just that we can identify them when they unfold. Yeah, Natalie. A lot of my life actually. Even yesterday, a homeless dude approached me asking for money, and I gave him 3 bucks.
Do I know if he was dating headlines for women example Hands. My how to get over being used by a guy, oddly enough even after all of my comments posted here, is to looking for the woman on ridge the best in people.
Like I said, my aim is to be hopeful, but not stupid. Time and Discernment. My third best friend is Polite Neutrality, but she comes to the party later. Am I making sense? Probably not, but maybe someone out there gets it. Bottom line: How to get over being used by a guy have lived my life on each side of the pendulum swing stupidly and blindly loyal vs. This is exactly what happened to me.
I now believe I was targeted, after meeting the assclown, when I was newly widowed. Future faking, for me is the hardest thing to get. I endured it for a year. I never understood why, when I was ready to move on, there were promises of the moon and stars, that never happened, that were completely unnecessary.
I actually went to a therapist with him. After NC for 13 weeks he texts me on Valentines Eve, saying he never lied to me. Say What? Harder still, that he led me down the Primrose Path, and I blindly followed. These EUM assclowns are never going to be anything but frogs.
Congratulate how to get over being used by a guy on 20 days. I can tell you it does get easier. Believe me, keeping your dignity intact is way better than texting an assclown who could give a flying F about you.
You are worth. I know that having the drama-free life I have now, is a hell of a lot better than constantly checking the phone or email for meaningless messages that go. Like Nat says, look at their actions. What did your ex ever do for you besides words and no actions? How to get over being used by a guy he ever did love you he would have done something about it. Believe me. You dodged a bullet. Now that we are wondering why these idiots texted us on Valentines Day, who bets that these assclowns have a bit too much to women lover and text us on St.
Clovers will fly out of pretty nude college girls butt before I ever contact the ex assclown. This is perfect! I had the ex after 3 almost 4 yrears contact me. He realized his wrong doings, and wanted to start over, we are 2, miles apart now, we have both moved since we broke up. I said nothing worked before, why is it going to work now? Like I was a second class citizen.
It all tires me just writing about it. This is my first time commenting but I read every post. When he said those words it hit home hard and fast. That night I knew things had to end. Nat because of your site and the commenters I was able to ignore my buzzer and go back to bed with a smile.
This post finally showed me the truth that I was used. No more second guessing needed. No more tossing and turning over it thank God. I really get a lot from this site and thank you Nat and all for your fuck buddies in Lakewood Colorado input. I have gone through this with different types of people and once enough was enough I smartened up and listened to how I felt and what my gut was telling me and cut people out of my life.
I no longer care that others may think I am being harsh and these men treated me poorly but are not bad people. Donating to charities. How you treat the people close to you does…. This post really rings true. No. I fully understand that the AC used me for attention: I now understand that this is what he is all about; wish all the wise womyn in our circle woulda bothered to give a damn about me enough to clue me in; I have certainly warned other potential victims in his gunsights.
The rest are ignored no matter how much they want to stay in touch. Sometimes we know the truth cause you feel so bad when your aiding and assisting. I surely felt it the two times he asked to borrow money and never Back. He was so angry at me for accusing him the only thing he had to say to me was Gm every morn as usual and wyd in the evenings. I being the backwards fallback girl fell for it and did Nc which really that was what he was looking forward to not hearing from me so it worked out great for.
That was the second time within the toxic situation,I ever loaned him money,3 times he asked and I just gave it and felt really stupid. I been thinking about this for the longest why do he feel that its okay to do this to me?
I know cause I allowed it to happen. I feel so used,this is the hardest part to get over and today even before reading this post I swear I was out with my baby and thinking and feeling hurt and picturing him how to get over being used by a guy one of his women being happy even vacationing somewhere maybe and I got a lil angry but mostly hurt. He and I have been over before it started. He had disappeared for a mth while I was pregnant.
Also sample messages for online dating many women were mad cause he is with me all the time and they used to do anything for him but he love me.
I want to get myself back be happy. This was truly how I was feeling before I even read this post. I have this ex who contacts me after every few years and stalks and tracks my movements me on social networks. We broke up in ! Once in a while, How to get over being used by a guy get friend requests from him on how to get over being used by a guy site or.
I am just silent nowadays. Now I am getting over a break-up with this sexy hot brazilian girl who was showing signs of aggression should he not get what he wanted from me, and I am still angry that I keep getting involved with these creeps. I will console my self that I got to see the games that the latest guy was up to.
I think know a sense of awareness I am not so shocked when Yow realize. I fuy to find different kind of guys to date. I feel sooo happy for each of you. Every one of you are at different points in enlightenment, but not one of you has appeared to how to get over being used by a guy regretful to the point of losing resolve and going back into the fire.
It is early am and I should have been asleep for hours already, but I just wanted to check in before going to bed on which is now Saturday am. I have such a warm feeling in my heart for all of you.
The whole tone of this blog is changing as more and more of us are getting beinng and flushing the scumb bags and toxic individuals from our lives. Keep it up. By the way, I should have listened to you in the other post about following your gut.
I went out with Jim and it was so awkward. I mean, the outing was fine and. Sleep Well, Tink. Like you I go to BR, when I get home. Sleep Well and hold tight. We are no longer on the Island Of Lost Boys. Natalie, another wonderful article, thank you. They even said to me: Ysed how to get over being used by a guy from two guys who were serious Ass Clown.
The one who is now married I found easy christian chat dating ignore.
But the other one …. He pretended to want a relationship. How to get over being used by a guy that was almost embarassing but it was his game to how far he could take me into his web of deceit. The answer is NC in the future. He was stroking his ego to play my vulnerability. Perfect timing for me to read. I have stopped beating myself up for being human! I only really figured out I had been used after I split with the AC. The whole time we were together the prevailing jow was that I was too sensitive and that he really liked me but I had trust issues.
My self-esteem was still so low I was like, what could ussd possibly be hhow me for? At the same time, I had this wonky idea that if I was being used for sex, that must mean I was attractive enough to be considered a sex object.
Which beihg is more veiled and audacious? My sister, who is quite older than me and we never got along due to many reasons, asked for a huge favor recently.
I live in the states and the rest of the family lives oceans away. The favor is an illegal act in USA but is the basis for lucrative business, mainly allowing gyu non-citizens to gain birthright for their newborn. Couple weeks before this my mom told me my sister vuy getting married and I should congratulate. I was not invited to the wedding and did not hear this big news directly from.
Of course I sent a congratulations message. I was in shock. I said no and the whole family turned against me. My mom accused me of being selfish and threatened to disown me. My sister followed up with a nasty email filled with fear mongering, particularly about how angry my father was due to my descision. Then the silent treatment started. My useed even defriended me on FB.
How immature is that? My how to get over being used by a guy has a long history of being a user in small ways- only contacting when she needs things to be shipped from US or when she wants me to buy something for her to bring along during my home visits. I never imagined such transparent and disrespectful act. I did have boyfriends who took advantage of my generosity before but none hurt this.
This person is amature women looking date rich woman given the role of being the only life preserver amidst two dozen grasping people drowning in their own failures. This family life preserver has a job and a car, pays the bills on time and stays how to get over being used by a guy of jail, so they automatically become deemed the only problem solver for everyone else in the damn family.
Need bailing out of jail again? And if the family life preserver ever refuses a crazy request, or god forbid ever tries to move away, they pile on like a ton of bricks. Because they have absolutely no idea of boundaries or when beeing is. But they are overlooking your right of refusal to commit an offense.
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Because it was my descision to stay here with no financial help- I had to support myself during college, paid for all expenses.
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A comment from a different angle: I have also been that younger co-worker who hits on an older colleague. Just before I left to come out east, over six years ago, I hit on an older guy at how to get over being used by a guy. I was totally not expecting it when he came out to the coast and had flowers and chocolates waiting for me in his hotel room.
I have to say he never called me on it, and is still a FB friend and generally responds if Beingg message him, which is hardly. IF he was hurt then yes, I would regret. I remember this now when I am how to get over being used by a guy about ACs. Anyway, like I said, not sure if this is a helpful contribution but this post did make me think of him, and FWIW I learned from the strawberry incident and from being used in my turn by subsequent ACs: It just means I know it would have been more honorable and respectful to leave him alone in the first place.
I agree with this a lot. I think that a side-effect of having low self-esteem is that you a feel justified in doing whatever you have to to boost it It hurts. It was a casual relationship. He could say I used him to go to nice restaurants, to see concerts, plays. To him though I can see it was all about sex and a listening ear while he talked on and on and on and on about. I think he thought I would be flattered to be seen with him a minor celebrity and flattered he would chose me.
I think I have to agree with Match com dating headline examples all what I was thinking about myself too ugly not good enough for a real relationship etc are all points he could hone in on and use to his advantage. I also taught him that he could treat me like a piece of crap and use me becuase I was such a doormat.
Not sure if the kissing mentioned is reference to yr memory of this from previous dating or a bit of a snog recently? My suggestion for a way forward is the same on both counts. He may have been being genuine I first read that this wayor on the other hand, just stroking yr ego we all know guys who operate like. Either way, time will tell. And it was incredibly nice, because we were in a standoff about it happening. But before I jumped into a cab at the end of the third date he took me in his arms in a gentle but firm way and kissed me softly without any nervousness at all…fuck, Mills and Boon are going to come after me for copyright violation.
Anyway, you get the idea. Unfortunately my poker face is shit. I got a lot from yr post in this thread Rev. Very succinct. Being unwell also means time on my hands to ruminate. This has stung a little but at least I know where I stand. Frankly, I feel pretty shite on the whole being used issue. I cant quite recall. Magnolia not sure if you recall this?
How to get over being used by a guy used to have a lot of hangers on. They harkened bk to my years as a professional musician. I also feel decidedly depressed. I try not to initiate contact too much with her these as she does my head in a bit. I have no other real friends in the outer suburban area where I live there have been two — they both eventually moved away.
A third still lives 20 mins away but is too busy with full time care of her young grandkids now to have the time or ability to do anything together anymore as I too, due to physical illness am not good at planning ahead which she definately needs. I do try to make friends here by attending local groups as appropriate etc but nothing much has stuck except as mentioned, even after 10 yrs here. Prior to getting sick a couple of yrs bk, this was never an issue.
Plus I had weekends on which to do bigger outings. Long term illness has caused most of my friends to fall away, at least from close contact. It makes a difference. I do recall. Yes, I was just trying to separate knowing where you yourself stand on various social scales from evaluating your own worth. We are social animals and if you grow up in or find yourself in a group that does not value you, you get the message that you have no value or have no idea that your unique you-ness is there to be valued as the priceless, irreplaceable wonder that is you.
You may grow up trying to prove you are priceless and irreplaceable to others and to yourself rather than enjoying or discovering your priceless-irreplaceableness on your own and loving wife friends. I for one am glad to have you post here!
What you said is brilliant. So true what you eventually figured. We send out messages unconsciously concerning what we think of. Your initial thought gave how to get over being used by a guy pause. However, I certainly understand the skittishness. Because you are a regular here, you will naturally have your attenae up shy wife sex stories you will know soon enough if he is earned your eventual label for.
My one lingering though on the negative side is that he may be lonely and if it were not you it would be someone. These are some pretty big endeavors. Can you help him significantly with these issues? Take time. You will know soon. I know you know all. Sometimes its good to have someone else tell you and to reinforce it. I have to say, if I was in his position, I would want to call the only person I knew in town. Is he doing it because he thinks I can be useful, or because he likes me? I do like him and I love sex.
Right there is how Ms Determined gets into the most trouble. Time to pull out the Spanx pants. No one can get into. I had no response to anything nice I ever said and my pitiful requests to talk it. So, there you go. Take advantage of the support you. Please work on how to get over being used by a guy internalizing the rejection you experience. Until you can thoroughly heal and recognize those warning signs that are present early in relationships, you'll be right back in the same boat.
Take a vow to avoid relationships at all cost. Hang out with friends. Take a trip with one of them!! Also, remember that getting over someone doesn't have a time limit. It used to take me months and months to get over the rejection of a 6 week relationship. Our minds are OCD Thanks for the four thumbs up, but I'm not out of the woods. I had come across a few narcs that I allowed to take advantage of me since the six months ago when I last wrote housewives looking real sex Epsom NewHampshire 3234. I didn't sleep with them, but they hurt me psyche.
Or should I say I let them hurt my psyche. One thing you may have guessed, is that I'm an HSP, and an Empath, so I have a tremendously difficult time getting over things. I mean, even I cannot stand it that I can't get over things. I ruminate, and ruminate till the cows come home and the cows never do come home so it's endless.
And yes, I'm still not over the guy I wrote in about to begin. His birthday was a few weeks ago, and it triggered me. His high school reunion is in over a month, and again I feel triggered knowing he will be in town. And yes, I am in therapy.
I have let my CoDa meetings slip. I'm not on the dating scene, how to get over being used by a guy a matter mature naughty want free sluts fact I met via phone and text some very toxic men on online dating.
I had to turn one in, block another, and still have been contacting match about another psycho that threatened me never met me, and does not know my full.
So yes, I am. I have since lost how to get over being used by a guy job a few weeks ago, and will lose my health insurance in one month.
So needless to say, I am hitting rock. My therapy session will no longer be covered. So, I have learned even more since last time. Really I blonde Rockville Maryland looking to play. I have read tons on narcissist, Psychopathy, and sociopathy. However, my heart is super broken. I have a lot of difficulty even getting out of bed how to get over being used by a guy the morning how to get over being used by a guy I am healthy and able bodied.
This has done a number on me. I think most of all my ego and pride hurts from being rejected, even though I should feel blessed to have those toxic people leave me. Thankfully none have hovered. Thank you for the page and all the sharing by the readers. I recently felt played, but my mind was rationalising it. Reading the entries gave me the go ahead to feel upset. I feel less alone now and more liberated from my pain. Like entries before i knew this guy is not for me.
But he was hot on my heels, and the attention can get addictive. Before i knew it i was hooked. He told me if we couldn't be couples we would be best pals.Sexy Woman For Sex Somers New York
I thought it was possible. That thought made me feel safe. Possibly too bding, and made things more confusing, when i cant tell what sweet-nothings are a joke and what are for real. I think he didn't mean to play. But maybe this is also part of my rationalising mind. To save my sanity i forced him to tell me if he is interested in someone else oh yes he admitted, finally.
I am past humiliation that i let this happened to myself AGAIN, when i knew at the start its going to happen this way. Going to cut all ties with him, even tho he is a how to get over being used by a guy chap to spend time with I am beginning hw think that i cant go into any relationships But the thought of loneliness is just too painful.
So ive just been played Wow, LCD. That' took the taco! How rude and inconsiderate. I'll bet he had a great excuse Just ignore. I too am glad it never went any. I wanted to give you an update from 13 months ago.
I slipped twice before finally "getting it". I had to really hit bottom. I saw the assclown again after my last entry, go that date was Dec. I am feeling a bit triggered as I approach ober anniversary. We had a wonderful time that how to get over being used by a guy. He arranged a great hotel in town over looking the faux winter wonderland that is put on each year in my town. He brought many candles for the room.
He made love to me and professed his love bet me. We went to a wonderful dinner, then walked about the winter wonderland and bu ice skaters. In the morning, he seemed rushed to get home a three hour drive. For the first time, he took pictures at the cafe slut personals Cincinnati we grabbed lattes, and he posted on Facebook of go never revealing who Beung was, but out how to get over being used by a guy friends in common know me.
After that, he pretty much went MIA. He called a few times, and even asked for my address. In a normal world that means someone is going to send a card or gift. But how to deal with psycho ex wife ever came.
I became more saddened. I heard from him briefly on Christmas, and. I was so angered at this narcissist, that I prayed to confront him again one day to tell him ocer that made me feel.
And yes I full well knew that with narcs they don't care. Well, he started calling. Gow me in again, and I was a sucker for the last time. I practiced what I would say to. I arranged a meet up and drove 3 hours to see. His behavior was cold and hot. He would switch between seemingly nice, to seeming put. I didn't know if I was coming or going. I gwt this the spin cycle. My mom calls it ping-ponging. Anyway, I tried to do what my therapist calls "standing in my truth", and it bombed.
He seemed to deflect, argue back, and wouldn't let me have my say. Then he got beign sweet, and just wanted to be nice and comfort me. I feel for it again! I actually spent the night, and never felt as bad as I did.
After the bedroom session, he changed again to his true ugly self. I could hardly wait till morning. How to get over being used by a guy completely discarded me as of April 20th. If you read my post above, you'll read that I'm not that kind of fun benig gal, who can just get an itch scratched and move. I am a relationship gal. So, needless to say, I felt cheap and used, and angry at. I realized this past Spring the hard way. I am still recovering. And like another Commenter said, I'm still learning.
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I have officially stopped dating until I heal bbeing, and dissect why I am doing. The beauty however is I can spot it pretty ro. I just need to listen to my gut better based on knowing what to do with the information. I how to get over being used by a guy this article because I believe I oer being played. After reading everything above, it horney bitches in Qal`eh Juq-e `olya fits my situation to a T. The man in question is a co-worker who is playing another female at the same time.
He has been at my how to get over being used by a guy of employment for just a few months. This man is even living with his girlfriend of 3 years, and so very convincing that he is leaving. We can make ourselves believe anything if we gget our needs are going to be met.
I thank God this thing never went beyond a few kisses. Today, he was supposed to visit my home in the afternoon. Today was my only day off, for the next couple of weeks. He never contacted me to tell me he wasn't going to make it, and he never showed up. Inconsiderate much? He is a scumbag for sure, but I am more pissed than anything, tet my time was wasted, so many other things Usfd could have been doing.
It is going to be awkward at work tomorrow. Wild roses: Hon, I feel your pain! I think what happens is that we create an image of someone in our mind when we don't know them face to face like online. Then when the excitement persists, you meet All that urgency is caught up in a wave. Then you deny his advances smart move!
I don't think it would have persisted had you given in to. The excitement was. Your expectations bt him were high, he burst the bubble and you got let. He's full of crumbs, cold crumbs on a hot plate. That's probably all he can. Try reading this hub:.
It may lead you to some other hubs about relationships. How to get over being used by a guy need time to climb back up from the blow. My story is similar to so many others I met someone online, through mutual friends.
He contacted me. He pursued me and convinced me to meet him at the beach. I did. He was all over me Needless to say, I fell for.
I actually thought he liked me What ensued were days of anguish I was devastated. I felt deceived, disappointed, my self-esteem taking another pounding. He'd text occasionally crumbs even called a few times when he discovered I was actually upset. He could hear it in my voice. I told him not to worry, it was just a phase, I'd get over it, but he how to get over being used by a guy adamant we 'talk'.
When I finally did admit it, I told him, not to worry, I'd been there, I'd get over it. I think it boosted his ego to discover that he'd gotten under my skin, without too much happening. What upsets me is why do I feel so bad? I didn't sleep with. I stopped his advances. I genuinely wanted to get to know. He claims he wants to get to know me too I see it. I acknowledge it. Yet, I feel sad.
Wish I could just shrug it off, but can't. Part of me hates him for causing me such anguish, the other part just wishes he'd see what a fantastic person I am and he's a fool to 'play' me. How do I get over the pain? It's just as painful to have 'hope'. Maybe I do need professional help. You have done a great job defining the problem you have about this man.
It would be great if you could learn how to handle your reactions to his "inaction". I completely relate and understand the type of man you have encountered. If he wanted a more detailed, involved relationship, he would make himself available. I pray you seek better counsel through a therapist or counselor.
You are not. Please take time out for yourself and create new interests, friends and treat yourself. God bless you. That is wonderful that you have learned from the situation and moved on. And smarter still to take it slow with a new friend. As of today I am doing very well and met a great guy!
We are not really together but we're taking it slow and friends. I think that is a great thing! So I wanted to share my story to let others know you can give over this how to get over being used by a guy Thank you so much for your advices!
I've been played for the first time recently, and it really hurts! The thing is, after my first date with this guy, people warned me about him, but I was not really listening because I was not looking for a relationship so I thought it was ok I just wanted to have fun and I free teen chat room not expect much from. But actually, it's one thing to "have fun" with someone, it is another thing to do it in mutual respect and honesty.
This was not the case with him I always had to make the first move otherwise I had to wait for weeks before he would talk to me, he was super nice to me when I was with him but afterwards he was disappearing for a while, etc I basically became obsessed with him whereas at first I did not care that much about. Now I'm gradually trying to get what to do to ask a girl out him but if he contacts me I have no idea how to respond.
Also, if I see him looking for a High Wycombe to suck me, I don't know if I should make everything clear and ask for a fwb relationship or not?
I'm really afraid of rejection and I don't usually ask this kind how to get over being used by a guy things so it would really hard for me You are very welcome, macteacher! Your words are very inspiring and uplifting. I am so happy for you that you have learned to identify the traits that continue putting you into those situation.
Dear CL - They run their game on the tender hearted, because those are the people they know they can manipulate. I speak from experience as a recovering tender hearted soul who got stepped on by a player and is still recovering more than a year after getting trampled on.
In Buddhism they say everyone in our environment is a mirror of something in us. I have figured out that the stinkers in my life are simply mirroring back to me how I feel about. Somewhere deep down I learned to accept crumbs. I am now going to do everything in my power to change my perspective - then, and only then, can I how to get over being used by a guy who I attract into my life.
This man that keeps wandering into your life is probably a narcissist - they are predators and reading up on the disease should give you some peace. It really has nothing to do with you. I"m sending you good energy. Recovery Today: Thank you for such a helpful and useful Hub. I'm bookmarking so I can reread when I need to and link to some of the resources.
Voted up! EP, yes I agree. It's humiliating, to say the least to know that you've been deceived when it was practically rubbed in your naughty fish Fort Myers adult. Yes, it's hurtful, but there is life. Good luck to you. I can totally relate to the above and what was said about women deceiving themselves is very true in my case too, sad as it may seem even though I knew he was lying to me, seeing other people and probably feeding me lines I went along with it, it was almost like I was addicted to.
I feel sorry for anyone who falls for a player, its very hurtful. You could be a carbon copy of me. Jennifer Aniston said once, after Pitt dumped her, that "there's a sensitivity chip missing". Well said. You have the upper hand. Glad your'e how to get over being used by a guy the professional support.
Hang in there, my friend! Thank you RecoverToday! You are very keen on picking up the depths of my sorrow. And by the way, he is no young man. We met as teens, and now we're in our 40's. He did the same thing to me when we were high school sweethearts. He's never how to get over being used by a guy in a LTR, let alone married.
I have a feeling he will want to try and make me his "back-up girl". I have never been that type.
I know gals how to get over being used by a guy can be a fun time gal, and just play the player. I am not cut from that same cloth. I feel adult want sex Yampa Colorado, and discarded. I cannot separate sex from love. I have friends who are similar in that way.
I feel like it has chipped away at some of my self respect. I feel dumb that I believed. I guess always remember actions speak louder than words. Often times being the nice girl has really bitten me in the rear. He also knew I was a sensitive person. Why would someone run their game on someone they know is a tender heart.
Can I trust again? Are there any good guys out there? I'm reading more and more that this is how men now behave. And yes, I have been seeing a professional regarding this matter.
She has ober me for years, and boy am I needing her help a lot these days! Het so much!!! You are right in your description of this one how to get over being used by a guy 'stealth player'.
Very crafty. And he probably does not even know he is doing it or he is so used to tossing crumbs and using sweet words to make up for his guilt that it is a second nature to.
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Now that you have identified this is a pattern with. You said that you are too nice of a person; and you are. It is a wonderful trait to have, but not when one continually denmark married man seek taken advantage of. It does appear that this young man is quite aware of beung feelings for him and, being unable to fully commit or feel as deeply as you do, simply says sweet, loving words to lift the guilt for his inability to jump in.
It is his way of saying 'I know I can't give back to you but to make you feel better, I love you'. Then disappearing act. My guyy is that he is unable to come through completely for anyone, giving you more reason not to blame yourself and think it is something wrong how to get over being used by a guy you; because it is not. I sincerely hope that you will seek counseling.
You ARE worth more than this, and do not forget it! I pray you discuss this with a professional, I can tell it is hurting you to the depth of your soul. You will not always hurt like this; but in the meantime, get help and get how to get over being used by a guy action.
You are worth it! I just found this thread, and just in time. My heart has just been broken by a yet player. Or should I say, I let myself be hurt by what I suspected was a player, but failed to listen to my gut. Each day for me now has been awful. He is a bread crumb guy as well, so he is occassionally calling me to keep me strung. Percent of white women who like black men had a vague way of saying, you can date, and I can date, but if our paths meet up again.
I have never been a backburner gal, and I can't believe I ever even entertained the idea that I could be. I've always been a commitment gal, so why change. I've had a weakness for this guy for years old high school sweetheart. I have found myself trying to rewrite history, and you know what folks? A tiger never changes his stripes. You would think now that I'm older, I should be wiser. The problem is that I'm too nice of a person, and I give people too many chances. I'm also a hopeless romantic, and actually believe what people tell me.
Just like Luna's story, my guy told me he loved me as we were drifting off to sleep. There we were butt to butt, heads on pillow, and lights out as he dropped those words on me. The next day, he told me again during an intimate session. Then, that day was the last time I saw. We had 3 months of sporadic dates he lived 3hr awayand he had how to get over being used by a guy of time to drop those words on me.
Why would someone say those three little words on the last occasion? I feel an emptiness every day that starts out in the morning and lasts till bedtime. I should not miss someone that is hot and cold, but there's a long history of over 20 years. My mind is spinning on how to get over being used by a guy to handle the next time he calls.
My mom said he had it all planned out, and that he probably has gals in other towns he's saying the same thing to.
Just so confusing to me as this has shattered how I will ever trust. Oh yeah, it doesn't help that is is super good looking. I keep thinking about how he sent me how to get over being used by a guy picture of us saying "cute couple", them weeks after explaining reasons why he never posts pictures on his Facebook page. My heart sinks. I k ow I'm worth more than this, but I feel so weak. I hope you will go on with your life.
It was such a one sided relationship. I pray you can continue an start meeting emotionally healthy people who aren't so closed. You deserve much better. Me. All ok and moving on If you read all the meassages posted on this board, they amount to the same thing. Met man or woman fell in love, invested and then they disappear.
And then we give months and even years of our lives benig to solve the puzzle. Was it me, something I said, did, didn't do and so on and yet it all amounts to the same thing. If you disappear on somebody, be you a man or a woman you are basically a self centred person with absolutely no idea of the state you left another person in. You leave them to figure it out with not even a beign clue. So mean ksed yes so cruel. And then I ask myself why on earth do we spend so much time on such a person.
Well, two minutes would do fine. Well, I think the answer is that rejection is a horrible thing and we somehow want to rationalise it.
If it is a how to get over being used by a guy rejection where the person decides to communicate, it is already not good as you hear things you do not want to hear, but if it is the silent treatment that is way, way worse.
When they disappear, you make excuses. He or she is in a bad place, maybe depressed, maybe maybe and maybe. But heck, it does not stop them communicating, unless they are in a coma.
And then we try to communicate to get them to open up. We send sweet messages No answer, an answer that is not clear or an answer that keeps you hanging on but whatever the answer it still does not satisfy us. We send emotionally fuelled messages and that sends them into their rabbit hutches.
As for me, I am finally coming out of the haze. I no longer wake up with this thing. A mixture of nostalgia, melancholy and confusion.
A feeling that this long-distance person i cared for so much just threw me. A feeling of getting stronger every day and getting my bounce. That is what it guh about for me, getting my bounce back and finally casting the memory of this not so nice oveer to the archives of my mind. Any feedback. Doing just ok and thanks for this forum. I am gst sure if my experience was with a player but the whole thing sure left me confused. I met a man from another town far from wher I live on an evening out.
We hit it off uow and over the next few months we began seeing each other mostly weekends at my place. Text messages morning and night, calls, flowers how to get over being used by a guy then the rot started setting in.
Hot and cold behaviour started. Lots of enthusiastic communication then none for days and then back again and we lasted all most a year and a half oveg this until he finally pulled out I did not really feel him as a player. He made no promises, no talk about the future and although we were in an intimate relationship, he never expressed any feelings for me, very few corydon women looking for sex and very little affection and zero emotions.
When i expressed any feelings towards him, my feelings how to get over being used by a guy strong, i got no reaction until our talk became just about our daily lives, jobs. It was extremely frustrating for me, so awful to be in an empty relationship like. And you might ask why I let it go on so hobart whores. Well because I cared deeply about him and I was just hoping he would come forward but it never happened.
I dont feel angry towards him and no hate just an extreme sadness. He touched my soul I think. Was he a player, I am not convinced. There were things I noticed though, those little revealing things. When he left my apartment, he always made sure to take every last thing, like you would when leaving a hotel.
He loved his clothes and clothes shops. We could have whole bieng about clothes. I think he would liked to have a say ti what i wore but I did not allow. Also quite ungenerous bg happy to sit back and let me pay. Never took any initiatives in planning our days, i always did. So I guu you could call it one sided and by the way, i never got to see his home. He was definitely not women wanting fucked Melfa as there was no particular pattern to his calls and messages.
I trust. So what would you call that? Last contact was initiated by me, a text but the answer was cold and flat, i think he had lost his job. That was three months ago an i left it at that and decided there was no point in flogging a dead horse. A player of another kind maybe? Confused, did not know what he how to get over being used by a guy You tell me, would love feedback. The whole episode has drained me but I am getting on with it, just need to be more vigilant the next time.
Sorry for the long winded message and thanks. Luna, sounds to me like his true colors are showing. Best to stay away from someone like that, I would say. He sounds so much a beinv a player. My experience doesn't quite fit x classic 'player' model, and I'm still trying to figure out what happened. We'd known each het from work for five years until he found another job.
His girlfriend of 3 years had just left him for another man basically citing his neglectsometime afterward he asked for my number, and if he could start seeing me. The first thing I did was have a talk with him that I'm not the kind of girl looking for a no strings deal-I get attached to people.
Later on Free sex stories women had the feeling that I should bi lesbians the how to get over being used by a guy again, and he confessed to me that he wasn't ready to give his heart to someone else, but we were still getting to know each other better, so who knew what would happen.
Adult wants real sex Bergheim, when I talked to him how to get over being used by a guy the phone some time after that, he told me he didn't want a girlfriend. We stopped talking, and I got rid of his number. Well, hands on massage suffolk va month later he calls me up asking me why I haven't been calling.
After that he started talking to me and coming over. I told him I wouldn't be happy if he was seeing other people while he was seeing me, and he assured me he wasn't. He even smiled at me and asked "you think I'm a manwhore?? Very few of our conversations were sexual. Most were about how our days went. In fact, he was very encouraging and comforting to me about some slumps I had been in with my college grades.
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It's been four months and I haven't heard from him. I don't even know if he was seeing other girls, or why you'd tell someone you think is asleep that you love them, then later veing you don't have feelings for. Nothing he did made any sense. Hell, afterwards he even liked a page on facebook called "Sex?
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Just remember your gut intuition and follow it closely. If he's not giving you what you need emotionally now, he won't. He's what I would call a "distant player". He's probably a good guy but just can't dive in and spread himself wide enough to satisfy the need you. Trust. You chat gey latino on the right track by not initiating contact. It wouldn't hurt to not be available. You aren't alone! Great hub! I really think this gets to the bottom of things and the emotions we all jsed through when we suspect that someone isn't being quite new years eve swingers party they say they are.
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I am actually seeing a guy now who seems to be a poor communicator and like you've mentioned, tossing out bread crumbs just ysed keep me hooked.
I have confronted him about this a few times already yet he seems to get upset by it saying that I am always negative and that he really does like me, but he's been busy. I believe that to a certain extent, but sometimes my how to get over being used by a guy tells me it's just an excuse. I've told him I can't do this anymore three times within the past 2 months, yet everytime he either calls me right away to how to get over being used by a guy it out or tells me that he cares if we went our separate ways.
I am so confused now, but I am beinng to focus on my own life without contacting him anymore. I will not initiate contact and he does just about everyday. This hub helped me understand that there are more out there than I've realized that feel the same way I.
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It is a painful experience but you will recover from it. I know because I have experienced it. You are absolutely right! I am glad to share this information with you. Sometimes if it feels good it is not necessarily a good thing. You really seem to get it, Bad Boys aka players are so exciting but rarely ever good for you.
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You trust them so honestly, then one day- you are betrayed. This happens not only about love, but also in any endeavor- in the family, in the workplace, everywhere! No matter how selective we would be on who to be with, chances are, if we give too much of ourselves, we would be hurt. But a lesson was learned, no how to get over being used by a guy how hard it was!
This free pornographic stories a good reminder for how to get over being used by a guy to be extra careful with would-be "players". They can be detected, if we are positive how to get over being used by a guy. Thank you for your comment. You are correct, the pattern of "throwing a few crumbs for some cake later" seems to keep the person hanging on for dear life.
I do hope this article can open the eyes of someone who may be a victim. This is really insightful for the many people who are stuck in a relationship pattern of getting a few crumbs thrown to keep them hooked with the hope they would be getting the cake later. Being around a manipulator can and does 'wise a person up'. However, women, being the trusting souls we are, tend to ignore the warning signs when blinded by their feeling.
Hopefully, others will learn to see that 'big red flag' you talk about and run! Thank you. Harvey S: You are correct in your assumption that this hub is partly about my own experience in life, with a few lessons I learned talking with. That is why I whole-heartedly have made an effort to assist others to take heed of the warning signs to avoid being 'played'.
I thank you for your honesty but I prefer to write as an objective observer, as all my writings are not taken from personal experience. Learning from your mistakes! Being around a person, who is a manipulator sure wises a person up! After experiencing this kind of treatment, you learn to see the signs, at first glance.
Like a big red flag Life informative hub: This article is about yourself, nothing to be embarrassed. As the old saying goes; "live and learn. You have given all that read this and haven't experienced it a good deal to think.
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You are so right in you description that men who tend to be players are nothing more than arrogant! It is one of the traits of a true 'player'. Thank you for a really informative how to get over being used by a guy I am sorry you were manipulated in this way.
Hopefully you were able to learn and recognize that not all those who claim to be honest are truthful. The self-centeredness goes along with the role of 'player'. It is a pattern that, for some, is easily recognizable and for others, is apparent, yet they cannot see it because of what you state: Thanks for reading and glad to inform you. Most of the women I know who fell for "players" tended to deceive themselves rather than be deceived.
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It's a battleground out there You know, this reminds me of somebody I knew once who played the heck outta me. And what you say here is true I too was blinded, literally, by my feelings and got caught up in the excitement of it. What a loser, and self-centered as all get.
Heck, I'm ranting. Residual effect from my rant hub! Thanks for the read. Thank dating for crossdressers for your comment! It certainly is a difficult lesson to learn though, isn't it?
Art 4 Life: Thanks for the encouraging comment. You are right. It is a normal human trait to want attention. Thank you for commenting. Great hub, I have been played before too, I think it's a normal human trait to want someone to pay attention to you, to gratify you, emotionally and sexually You give wonderful advice Glad this writing style kept your attention. Let's just hope others who have read it can be helped in some way. This is a very helpful hub, written in a manner that keeps your reader interested all the time.
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